Was the neighbour being a busybody?
Recently, a Woodlands window male "flasher" was caught and fined $6500.
A female neighbour living in the opposite HDB block, saw the married salesman walk naked in his bedroom in the wee hours of the morning for almost three months. She said that she even saw him "masturbating intentionally". She then made a police report which led to his arrest.
I discussed this case with some friends and interestingly, there were vastly divided views between the ladies and the gentlemen.
Most women feel that the neighbour did the right thing by reporting his lewd acts. They believe that the flasher was outraging a woman's modesty with his obscene deeds, and that he ought to be punished.
"Perhaps the man thinks that women cannot do anything to him because he was exposing himself from his home. This will teach him a lesson."
However, most men think that the neighbour was being a nosey-parker and she should not have looked into the man's house deliberately to catch him in the act.
Guy A said, "When she first saw this man walking naked in his house, she should have felt embarassed to look into his house again. Why did she peep in again and again for three months?"
Guy B said, "Some people just enjoy walking or sleeping naked in their house. After all, that is their own private space. Perhaps this guy has this habit too. But he made a grave mistake because he forgot to draw the curtains or the blinds."
From Guy C: "Perhaps he did not think that people in the opposite block could see him. Anyway he goes naked only for a short time early in the morning, maybe just after he bathed and was getting ready for work. If the neighbour had not been such a nosey-parker, would anybody else have noticed him?"
Guy D gave his view which would make any woman jump in annoyance, "Perhaps the man saw the woman looking at him day after day and got angry, that was why he did the 'masturbating' action on purpose to get her to stop staring. Maybe the female neighbour called the police after she has 'seen' enough."
I think most of the guys gave rather good defences. They have a point. But I do not agree that the female neighbour was being a busybody.
There is nothing wrong if you take pleasure in being nude and "free of burdens" in the comfort of your home. But there is a problem if your personal enjoyment affect your neighbours. Nudity is a sensitive issue and everyone's acceptance level is different.
If I stand by my window and see a neighbour walking naked in his house one day, I would probably check out his house again the next time I stand by the window. If I find out that he walks naked in his house but does not purposely go near the window or act pervertly, I would leave the matter to rest and try to avoid looking into his window again.
Nevertheless, if I catch him doing indecent acts, I would do what the female neighbour did: report the matter to the police.
What would you do if you found yourself in the same scenario?
posted by yvonne @ 9:46 PM
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3 Comments:
Quite definite that the man was trying to exhibit himsef.
"forgot to draw the curtains or the blinds."? Why not say he forgot to put on clothes.
If I were the man, I would endure that door is closed and the windows shielded before coming out naked.
If I were the woman, I would have done the same. I might even takes pictures, before report him.
What we need to know is whether or not the neighbour tried to inform the man that she could see him. I think it isn't that unlikely that the man didn't know he could be seen; while some people may be very self-aware when they undress and thus take note of if the windows are open, if anybody can see them, etc. others may not be so.
In any case, he may not have any idea who is living opposite his window, and may not care that they see him... after all if you think about it when you take off your clothes your foremost reason for not wanting people to see you is for your modesty, not others. So it may not have crossed his mind that someone else was looking and was upset over it.
So, if the neighbour didn't say a word to him about it, then I think it is a bit unfair to silently report him to the police in that way. But if she did mention it and yet he didn't change, then of course he's to blame.
I guess the main problem with this is that the woman might have been too embarrassed to inform him about it... which is probably why she endured it for three months. If that was the case the police could have helped by telling the man about it and try to resolve the matter amicably, instead of resorting to an arrest.
She is an irresponsible coward. She chose to look into his house repeatedly despite knowing what she would find there. Her actions plainly indicate that she liked what she saw, else why continue to look?
Any claims to morality, decency, or other concepts fall by the wayside in light of her actions.
Or put another way: if thine eye offends thee, pluck it out!
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